HELP 4 FAMILIES FOUNDER AND EXECUTIVE DIRECTOR:
Denise Shick is the Founder and Director of Help 4 Families, a Christian ministry that compassionately reaches out to family members who are grappling with the emotional and spiritual issues encountered when a loved one identifies as transgender. She is the author of My Daddy’s Secret, When Hope Seems Lost, Understanding Gender Confusion—A Faith Based Perspective, and has published articles in The Federalist, American Thinker, The Daily Signal, and BarbWire.
She serves on the testimonial council with the International Children’s Rights Institute and on several other ministry boards. In addition, Denise is an experienced conference speaker and is regularly interviewed on U.S. and international Christian radio and television programs.
She has led church-based support groups for people with sexual addictions, held the position of an administrator of family-related issues with Transgender Fellowship, and served as a program aid for an alcohol and substance abuse clinic. Denise also has seven years experience with a Christian pregnancy center in the roles of administrative assistant, volunteer counselor, and later in implementing an abstinence program as the program director.
Denise is an ordained minister and has earned an Associate of Science in Psychology and a Bachelor of Science in Community and Human Services.
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- Help for Transgenders Must Balance Truth and Compassion: Help 4 Families acknowledges that the struggles gender-confused people endure are more than psychosomatic; they are real and they need to be addressed seriously, with godly compassion. But God’s compassion cannot—must not—be divorced from His perfection and His sovereign, righteous rule. Just as Jesus concurrently displayed God’s compassion and righteousness (John 8:2-11), so must His followers (Galatians 6:1-2; Ephesians 4:15; Jude 1:22–23).
- God Set Gender Boundaries: Help 4 Families also acknowledges that God purposely built moral and relational boundaries into His creation. Crossing those boundary lines often appears to be pleasurable and even beneficial, but doing so comes with a heavy price (Isaiah 59:2; Romans 6:23; 1 John 3:4). Among the boundaries God set in place are those that deal with gender identity (Genesis 1:27; Deuteronomy 22:5; 1 Corinthians 6:9). He created both genders purposely and purposefully—purposely in that He was guided by a deliberate aim and purposefully in that each gender has special distinctions. He designated both genders as “good,” exactly as He made them (Genesis 1:27-31). Crossing that gender boundary (attempting to switch genders), tempting as it may be for some people, implies that God made a mistake. Help4Families affirms God’s perfection; He does not make mistakes (Deuteronomy 32:3-4; Matthew 5:48; 1 John 1:5).
- The Goal Is Restoration: Those who believe they were born into the wrong gender are not any more evil or any more deserving of God’s judgment than any other person (Romans 3:23). But they are deceived, and their deception, if acted upon rather than renounced, will have harmful consequences (1 Corinthians 6:9-10). The Bible commands those who have a true relationship with Jesus Christ to warn those whose beliefs and actions place them in peril (Leviticus 19:17-18; Proverbs 27:5; 2 Timothy 4:2). But we must do so humbly, seeking to restore rather than to punish, and we must acknowledge our own vulnerabilities as we seek to guide and restore (Galatians 6:1-2). Help4Families believes—and has seen—that God truly can restore a gender-confused person (Psalm 103:2-3; Isaiah 53:5; John 10:10; 1 Peter 2:24). We believe, then, that it is our God-mandated duty to reach out in love and truth to those who struggle with gender confusion, despite the prevailing mood of our culture, which condones gender autonomy and condemns efforts to restore the gender-confused. We will obey God in this matter, regardless of the cost (Acts 5:29; Galatians 5:13-14).
At dawn he appeared again in the temple courts, where all the people gathered around him, and he sat down to teach them. The teachers of the law and the Pharisees brought in a woman caught in adultery. They made her stand before the group and said to Jesus, “Teacher, this woman was caught in the act of adultery. In the Law Moses commanded us to stone such women. Now what do you say?” They were using this question as a trap, in order to have a basis for accusing him. But Jesus bent down and started to write on the ground with his finger. When they kept on questioning him, he straightened up and said to them, “Let any one of you who is without sin be the first to throw a stone at her.” Again he stooped down and wrote on the ground. At this, those who heard began to go away one at a time, the older ones first, until only Jesus was left, with the woman still standing there. Jesus straightened up and asked her, “Woman, where are they? Has no one condemned you?” “No one, sir,” she said. “Then neither do I condemn you,” Jesus declared. “Go now and leave your life of sin.” John 8:2-11
Brothers and sisters, if someone is caught in a sin, you who live by the Spirit should restore that person gently. But watch yourselves, or you also may be tempted. Carry each other’s burdens, and in this way you will fulfill the law of Christ. Galatians 6:1-2
Instead, speaking the truth in love, we will grow to become in every respect the mature body of him who is the head, that is, Christ. Ephesians 4:15